The Do's & Don'ts of Wedding Toasting Speeches

When asked to be the best man or maid of honor, one might be ecstatic. After all, it is a huge honor! On the other hand, some people might agree to it, but scoff at the position in private. It involves devoting a lot of your time (and some of your money) to the wedding: planning the bachelor party, organizing the bridal shower, assembling wedding favors, and assisting the bride and groom with whatever they need. You also have to remember that come the big day, you'll be standing in front of all the guests and giving a toasting speech. For some, this is an overwhelming task. So sit back, take a breather, and remember these helpful tips when giving your wedding speech.

Dos

Do introduce yourself. Clearly state your name and your relation to the couple.

Do keep it short, sweet and to the point. Rambling is definitely a don't! If you start to hear crickets, you'll know it's time to wrap it up.

Do add a little humor (if you wish). Something light, in good taste and easy to follow is all you need to get a laugh.

Do refer to an anecdote. How you met the couple is popular.

Do focus on the couple. It's their big day and you're proposing the toast to them! This isn't about you.

Do end on a happy and more serious note. Think "heartwarming!"

Don'ts

Don't curse. Your buddies aren't the only guests. It's likely there will be elder, more conservative people and small children.

Don't confuse funny with humiliating or embarrassing. Sure, there were funny memories when you were drunk at a frat party in college. It's not funny now.

Don't drink too much. At least before the speech anyway. A drink or two beforehand might loosen you up, but you'll just look sloppy if you're too drunk.

Don't refer to past boyfriends/girlfriends, or previous hookups. Or how YOU kissed the bride back in college.

Don't mention inside jokes. It may be amusing to you and the couple, but chances are the other guests won't know what you're talking about.

Don't forget to say "cheers!" with a beautiful set of champagne flutes!

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