Do We Have To Have A Cake Cutting Ceremony?

Do We Have To Have A Cake Cutting Ceremony?

I really hate it when brides and grooms smash each other with wedding cake. Do I have to have a cake cutting ceremony?

Well, no technically, you do not. It’s your wedding and you can conduct it in any way you wish. However, if you have a cake displayed during your reception, your guests will expect a little fanfare. The best course of action is to explain your wishes to your fiancé and explain to him that you do not wish to be plastered with cake. We don’t blame you!

However, the cake cutting is a traditional event and one in which many of your guests (and family) may even expect. The task of cutting the cake is meant to symbolize the couple’s first joint task in married life. The gesture of feeding cake to one another is a symbol of the commitment the bride and groom are making. Traditionally, the husband feeds the wife first.

It’s really up to you to decide how you want to undertake this tradition. More elegant affairs have a simple cake cutting and feeding without the outrageous (and often obnoxious) gesture. Many couples these days now regard it as disrespectful, while other couples find it a show of lightheartedness of the couple. Some couples even play fun songs and dance before or after the cake is cut. It’s really up to the individual couple how they handle this event.

Also think about the cake cutting ceremony as a photographic event. Wouldn’t you like to look back upon photos of your wedding cake and the joint task you first carried out as husband and wife? If this will be an important photographic moment, think about where in the reception hall you would like to display the cake and make sure you advise your photographer of what types of photos you would like for it. In addition, the wedding cake toppers you choose for your cake will also be photographed and will be the crown jewel of your cake. Make sure you select a cake topper that reflects the mood, style and theme of your wedding day. And don't forget to purchase a wedding cake serving set to cut the cake!

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