When you've been given the position as planner and hostess for this big day, you may be asking yourself: what is a bridal shower?
The bridal shower is an important part of the wedding planning, and pre-wedding parties. It's a time for all of the closest girlfriends of the bride to gather and "shower" her with gifts that she can use in her new, married life with her husband. Yet it's also a time to help the bride relax. The shower gives her an opportunity to relax and stop thinking about the wedding planning for a day. She can spend quality time with her friends and family and receive support from them as well. If you're wondering how to plan a bridal shower
, below you'll find some helpful tips to make what looks like hard work a breeze.
Bridal showers are typically held a few weeks to even a couple of months prior to the wedding. When picking a date for the shower, try to choose a time where the bride isn't so busy. If she's swamped with appointments one week, you'll probably want to hold the party when she's not worried about a dress fitting. Also, be sure the bride has time to register before the shower. She's busy enough, so you don't want to have to rush her into doing so. Most bridal showers are held during the day - Sunday afternoon brunches seem to be extremely common.
Today it is not uncommon to hold Jack and Jill bridal showers. Co-ed bridal showers are definitely popular and acceptable nowadays. If you are holding a Jack and Jill shower, plan accordingly. Most men aren't going to want to walk into a party that's covered with pink, lace and frills. Also, if you do choose to host a co-ed shower, be sure to specify it on the invitation! Remember, you shouldn't invite anyone to the bridal shower that isn't invited to the wedding, but you certainly don't have to invite every single person. You should only invite the closest friends and family of the bride or couple. This is a part of proper bridal shower etiquette.
Many bridal parties face the question of "who pays for the bridal shower?" Traditionally, the maid of honor not only plans, but pays for the bridal shower as well - usually with the other bridesmaids chipping in. Many bridal parties still plan and pay for the bride's shower today, but that certainly does not make it mandatory that they do so. Many brides understand that their bridal shower may not be able to afford planning such an event, so in many cases the family - or whomever wants to throw the shower - may also help pay. Whoever pays for the shower, of course, will depend on the type of budget you have. But remember, this doesn't have to be a formal ballroom affair. If money is tight, why not have a small, intimate tea party in a close friend's home, or a backyard BBQ that both the men and women can enjoy?
If you're a bride reading this, you must remember that you are not supposed to be in charge of planning this event. That is, of course, if for some reason you have decided to throw it for yourself. You should certainly be able to be involved with the planning a bit, but this day is for you to relax. Regardless, the shower should definitely be based on what you like: the theme can be inspired by one of your hobbies, and you should approve of the food, of course. Rather than pushing your hostess aside and taking control, drop hints and give her a little guidance.
Hopefully this helped any of you who are planning on hosting a bridal shower
. Don't forget to shop our large selection of bridal shower favors
so you can say "thank you" to all your guests who attended.
© April 7, 2011, Kelsey Bowen, Little Things Favors
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